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Stylin’ Up: The 3-Step Guide to Finding Your Unique Style as a Mom

This is a guest post by Jill Marinelli, Style and Beauty Expert:

In my work as a personal stylist, I have found that the women who are happiest with their appearance are those who feel their wardrobe is a true reflection of who they are. As humans, we all want to be known, and our appearance is a way of communicating with others.

I like to ask my clients, “When people look at you, what do you want them to know about you?”

Work at home moms often find themselves in an “all or nothing” style situation – all dressed up for a meeting, or a bit too sloppy when hanging out with the kids. So many of us lack that middle ground of clothing – cute outfits that are casual enough to be with the kids but perhaps just “put together” enough to run into a client!

 To create your own unique style, I recommend these three steps:

 1. Create a Style Vision Board

Vision boards are based on the law of attraction – like attracts like. They are a visual representation of things you want in your life.

Vision boards utilize a part of your brain called the reticular activating system (RAS). The role of the RAS is to filter out stimuli, preventing sensory overload. At the same time, it picks out information from your environment that is valuable to you and brings it to your attention.

Creating a vision board programs your RAS to recognize and pay attention to things that are in alignment with your goals. Your job is to take action when opportunities present themselves!

To create a style-specific vision board, cut or print out pictures of clothing styles that appeal to you from websites, magazines, and catalogs. Cut out anything you are innately attracted to, want more of, are inspired by, or just love for no apparent reason. The key is to make no judgments i.e. “that wouldn’t look good on me”.

As well, select pictures of people and words that inspire you and hold the qualities that you admire; for example, the elegance of Audrey Hepburn or the relaxed casualness of Jennifer Aniston.

The process of choosing these combinations of objects and events helps them stay in your subconscious mind and steer your choices toward making your vision real. You will notice themes emerging – colors, textures and patterns that will be excellent guides when you are shopping.

Attach your pictures to a poster board or bulletin board and place it somewhere you see it often. You want to bathe your subconscious mind with its energy – and thus, manifest your desires!

 2. Clean out Your Closet

Using your vision board as a guide, go through everything in your closet. Do the items in your closet reflect who you are right now? The average woman wears 20% of her clothes, 80% of the time. Too many women keep clothing from years ago that may no longer fit or reflect their current style.

Ask yourself: Does this flatter me? If I saw it in a store today, would I buy it again? Do I feel good when I wear it? Get rid of anything that doesn’t fit, flatter or make you feel fabulous!

Getting dressed is so much easier when your closet is pared down to just the garments that make you look and feel great!

The key is to honor who you are right now – not who you were 10 years or 10 pounds ago.

3. Create a Uniform

Anyone who has kids that wear uniforms to school knows that this saves time, guesswork, and in some cases, emotional anguish for both kids and mom!.

I encourage moms to create their own version of a uniform. It should make sense for your lifestyle and be easy to throw on quickly! I like to think of a uniform as a canvas to which you can add accessories and make it unique. Accessories are an inexpensive way to experiment with a new style and can be some of the most versatile items in your wardrobe.

My uniform is jeans and a t-shirt. You’ll rarely see me in anything else. I spend a bit more on jeans because I wear them so much, and am careful to find t-shirts that fit really well. I can easily dress up my uniform with darker wash denim and a statement necklace. In summer I switch to a denim skirt or shorts.

Which step will you use to create your own sense of style? How do you define your unique style?

About the Author:

Jill Marinelli is a style and beauty expert who appears regularly on television and radio. Visit her website to subscribe to her newsletter and get her free guide to the top ten wardrobe staples every woman should own.

 Photo Credit: Free Digital Photos


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  1. There is some very good advice in this article. Thank you!

    I love for discovering and developing your style. It was there I found that I truly love pencil skirts and high heels. I also discovered that I prefer deep reds, plum, and dark teal for my colors, and my preferred neutrals are charcoal or silver gray, black, and chocolate brown.

    I have very few clothes, but I love everything I have and can mix and match most items so no matter what I throw on, I can feel confident that I look good. My signature style most prominently features knee length pencil skirts in different fabrics – jean, twill, etc.

    • The Mom Writes says:

      Hi Revka, thanks for stopping by and sharing. Glad you liked the tips by Jill. I am definitely going to check out Polyvore.. Thanks so much for sharing it. You’re right, knowing what colors and style you love the most add a lot of confidence!

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