We’ve all been there and experienced it – being told that our article/writing/ blog post/ copy is just not good enough. But luckily (or maybe not!) plenty of more experienced writers than yours truly have dealt with how to accept rejection as a writer and move on.
So, here are some real words of wisdom on an essential part of a writer’s life from writing experts from across the blogosphere:
Dealing with Query Rejection
Ever sent a query only to get a rejection letter? Or worse, nothing? Yeah, I’ve been there and done that. So, that is why I find these tips from All Freelance Writing very helpful in coping with query rejection.
You can easily use these tips to deal with rejection from A-list bloggers for a guest post request. Yes, it happens to almost all of us. All too often.
This one is for all those aspiring book writers out there. However, one can easily use the tips and apply them to craft that perfect article query or article itself. In true, Laurie style, the post includes expert advice from agents and publishers and ensures that you leave the post a better and stronger writer, able to identify what would prevent rejection in the first place. Isn’t that cool?
Okay, I admit. I came across Paul Wolfe’s blog during a random Google Search but his series on Writer’s Block (check that out as well) and this particular post on dealing with rejection stayed with me. In this post, Wolfe talks about how a fear of rejection can actually lead you to procrastinate and not finish your project.
Then, he offers you 3 ways of dealing with it and includes his own personal experiences with rejection. Great read and very encouraging.
Finally, here are a few of my own personal tips on overcoming the “rejected” feeling and moving on with my life and work:
- It Isn’t Personal : I know this. I just need to remind myself about it when I see a letter start with , “Unfortunately..” The editor or blogger doesn’t have anything personal against you. They’ve probably had an influx of the same ideas and just can’t run it again.
- It Isn’t Perfect: Read the query or the article and re-read it once to identify areas of improvement. Did you tailor the pitch according to the editorial calendar? Did you address it to the right person? Did your tone reflect disrespect or arrogance? Make notes. Learn from rejection and then, trash the rejection letter . I still keep copies of my early day queries to remind myself never to make the same mistakes again. Yes, I am strange like that. **laughing**
- Polish It Up: Also, when dealing with rejection, it gives me great joy and a renewed enthusiasm for my writing to actually polish up the rejected piece and then, submit it to another magazine or blog. It’s worked. By polishing it up, I mean going over it with a fine-tooth comb to weed out all the areas of improvement that we’d identified in #2 above.
- Fun It Up: And finally, when dealing with rejection, I like to spend the rest of the day doing something fun. You know, read a book, hang out in the kitchen with my toddler, eat chocolate, take a walk with my husband. Have fun. Tomorrow is another brand-new day, waiting to be filled with your words. Come back refreshed and energized, ready to write up a storm!
Have you ever dealt with rejection as a writer or blogger? What tips do you have?
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